“Children of trauma are experts at triangulation.” “Triangulation?” I asked. “The child will act a certain way with one parent and a different way with the other parent. They try all kinds of things to drive a wedge in the parents’ relationship.”
―
Lucinda Berry,
The Perfect Child
“The problem with having a fairy-tale relationship story was how much other people were invested in keeping the fairy tale alive. It wasn’t just our story—it was everyone’s.” ― Lucinda Berry, When She Returned
“No matter how many times I was questioned by the police, it never got easier. My nerves jumped into high gear automatically. They always made me feel like I was lying, even when I was telling the truth.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“We forgave murderers, not pedophiles.” ― Lucinda Berry, Saving Noah
“Parenting a traumatized child is horribly difficult. Most of them suffer from severe attachment issues, and mothers are usually the targets of their rage. It can get pretty awful.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“She crawled up on my lap and whispered in her sweet voice, “I like hurting people. Do you?” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“When kids go through trauma, they do incredible things to survive their situation. Sometimes it means their brains create different stories and other realities to help them cope, elaborate fantasies to make something horrible make sense.” ― Lucinda Berry, Appetite for Innocence
“No one was more proud of me than I was of myself.” ― Lucinda Berry, Phantom Limb
“It was too much to hope for a light at the end of the tunnel. I gave up on that long ago, but if I looked hard enough, there was always light on my next step.” ― Lucinda Berry, Saving Noah
“I didn’t want to die, at least I don’t think so. I just didn’t want to feel anything. Everything was just too heavy.” ― Lucinda Berry, Appetite for Innocence
“One of the worst things you could do to someone in the midst of tragedy was to give them a cliche because the intensity of the loss was too big.” ― Lucinda Berry, When She Returned
“It's just the small-town mentality of people not liking change and being resistant to anything that doesn't fall within their traditional ideologies.” ― Lucinda Berry, When She Returned
“I wished I lived in a world where I didn’t know violence intimately, but I’d seen more than my fair share, given the work I did.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“It never crossed anyone’s mind that someone else might be in trouble. I wished it would’ve. Maybe then things would’ve ended differently.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“sometimes there was no moving on and you just had to move through.” ― Lucinda Berry, Missing Parts
“I wished I were as optimistic as I pretended. I used to be. Not anymore.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“The house was dark when I got home. Stillness enveloped it. I opened the door quietly and stepped over the spot on the wooden floor where it creaked. I tiptoed through the living room and into the hallway. Janie was already sleeping. It was too early for her to be asleep. Hopefully she wasn’t sick. Our bedroom door was shut. I put my ear up to the wood, straining to hear anything. I wasn’t going to wake them if they were asleep. I’d sleep on the couch. It was worth a terrible night of sleep if Hannah got a chance to rest. My heart sank when I heard whimpering.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“It gave us an opportunity to miss each other, and sometimes you needed that in a relationship even when you loved each other as much as we did.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“Sometimes, what doesn’t kill you simply doesn’t kill you, and you spend all your time wishing it had.” ― Lucinda Berry, Off the Deep End
“The problem with having a fairy-tale relationship story was how much other people were invested in keeping the fairy tale alive. It wasn’t just our story—it was everyone’s.” ― Lucinda Berry, When She Returned
“No matter how many times I was questioned by the police, it never got easier. My nerves jumped into high gear automatically. They always made me feel like I was lying, even when I was telling the truth.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“We forgave murderers, not pedophiles.” ― Lucinda Berry, Saving Noah
“Parenting a traumatized child is horribly difficult. Most of them suffer from severe attachment issues, and mothers are usually the targets of their rage. It can get pretty awful.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“She crawled up on my lap and whispered in her sweet voice, “I like hurting people. Do you?” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“When kids go through trauma, they do incredible things to survive their situation. Sometimes it means their brains create different stories and other realities to help them cope, elaborate fantasies to make something horrible make sense.” ― Lucinda Berry, Appetite for Innocence
“No one was more proud of me than I was of myself.” ― Lucinda Berry, Phantom Limb
“It was too much to hope for a light at the end of the tunnel. I gave up on that long ago, but if I looked hard enough, there was always light on my next step.” ― Lucinda Berry, Saving Noah
“I didn’t want to die, at least I don’t think so. I just didn’t want to feel anything. Everything was just too heavy.” ― Lucinda Berry, Appetite for Innocence
“One of the worst things you could do to someone in the midst of tragedy was to give them a cliche because the intensity of the loss was too big.” ― Lucinda Berry, When She Returned
“It's just the small-town mentality of people not liking change and being resistant to anything that doesn't fall within their traditional ideologies.” ― Lucinda Berry, When She Returned
“I wished I lived in a world where I didn’t know violence intimately, but I’d seen more than my fair share, given the work I did.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“It never crossed anyone’s mind that someone else might be in trouble. I wished it would’ve. Maybe then things would’ve ended differently.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“sometimes there was no moving on and you just had to move through.” ― Lucinda Berry, Missing Parts
“I wished I were as optimistic as I pretended. I used to be. Not anymore.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“The house was dark when I got home. Stillness enveloped it. I opened the door quietly and stepped over the spot on the wooden floor where it creaked. I tiptoed through the living room and into the hallway. Janie was already sleeping. It was too early for her to be asleep. Hopefully she wasn’t sick. Our bedroom door was shut. I put my ear up to the wood, straining to hear anything. I wasn’t going to wake them if they were asleep. I’d sleep on the couch. It was worth a terrible night of sleep if Hannah got a chance to rest. My heart sank when I heard whimpering.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“It gave us an opportunity to miss each other, and sometimes you needed that in a relationship even when you loved each other as much as we did.” ― Lucinda Berry, The Perfect Child
“Sometimes, what doesn’t kill you simply doesn’t kill you, and you spend all your time wishing it had.” ― Lucinda Berry, Off the Deep End
