“In his suicide note, Kurt Cobain wrote, "It's better to burn out than to fade away." He was quoting a Neil Young song about Johnny Rotten of the Sex Pistols. When I was twenty-four, I interviewed John Lennon. I asked him about this sentiment, one that pervades rock and roll. He took strong, outraged exception to it. "It's better to fade away like an old soldier than to burn out, " he said. "I worship people who survive. I'll take the living and the healthy.”
―
David Sheff,
Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“An alcoholic will steal your wallet and lie to you. A drug addict will steal your wallet and then help you look for it.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“A world of contradictions, wherein everything is gray and almost nothing is black and white.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Anyone who has lived through it, or those who are now living through it, knows that caring about an addict is as complex and fraught and debilitating as addiction itself.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“We deny the severity of our loved one's problem not because we are naive, but because we can't know.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“How can both Nics, the loving and considerate and generous one, and the self-obsessed and self-destructive one, be the same person?” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“I'm not sure if I know any 'functional' families, if functional means a family without difficult times and members who don't have a full range of problems.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Fortunately I have a son, my beautiful boyUnfortunately he is a drug addict.Fortunately he is in recovery.Unfortunately he relapses. Fortunately he is in recovery again.Unfortunately he relapses.Fortunately he is not dead.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“I didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't cure it.” ― David Sheff
“I am becoming used to an overwhelming, grinding mixture of anger and worry...” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Why does it help to read others' stories? It is not only that misery loves company, because (I learned) misery is too self-absorbed to want much company. Others' experiences did help with my emotional struggle...” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Our children live or die with or without us. No matter what we do, no matter how we agonize or obsess, we cannot choose for our children whether they live or die. It is a devastating realization, but also liberating. I finally chose life for myself.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Here's a note to the parents of addicted children: Choose your music carefully...There are millions of treacherous moments.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Through Nic's drug addiction, I have learned that parents can bear almost anything....I shock myself with my ability to rationalize and tolerate things once unthinkable. The rationalizations escalate....It's only marijuana. He gets high only on weekends. At least he's not using hard drugs....” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“How innocent we are of our mistakes and how we responsible we are for them.” ― David Sheff
“When I transformed my random and raw words into sentences, sentences into paragraphs, and paragraphs into chapters, a semblance of order and sanity appeared where there had been only chaos and insanity.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“That's when it struck me that I can't take my life as long as I can still laugh.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“He had black fingernails and drove a hearse. Everything about him cried out, 'Look at me, look at me,' and when you looked at him, he would snap, 'Who the fuck are you looking at?' If you subscribe to the idea that addiction is a disease, it is startling to see how many of these children- paranoid, anxious, bruised, tremulous, withered, in some cases psychotic - are seriously ill, slowly dying. We'd never allow such a scene if these kids had any other disease. They would be in a hospital, not on the streets.” ― David Sheff
“An alcoholic will steal your wallet and lie to you. A drug addict will steal your wallet and then help you look for it.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“A world of contradictions, wherein everything is gray and almost nothing is black and white.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Anyone who has lived through it, or those who are now living through it, knows that caring about an addict is as complex and fraught and debilitating as addiction itself.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“We deny the severity of our loved one's problem not because we are naive, but because we can't know.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“How can both Nics, the loving and considerate and generous one, and the self-obsessed and self-destructive one, be the same person?” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“I'm not sure if I know any 'functional' families, if functional means a family without difficult times and members who don't have a full range of problems.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Fortunately I have a son, my beautiful boyUnfortunately he is a drug addict.Fortunately he is in recovery.Unfortunately he relapses. Fortunately he is in recovery again.Unfortunately he relapses.Fortunately he is not dead.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“I didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't cure it.” ― David Sheff
“I am becoming used to an overwhelming, grinding mixture of anger and worry...” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Why does it help to read others' stories? It is not only that misery loves company, because (I learned) misery is too self-absorbed to want much company. Others' experiences did help with my emotional struggle...” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Our children live or die with or without us. No matter what we do, no matter how we agonize or obsess, we cannot choose for our children whether they live or die. It is a devastating realization, but also liberating. I finally chose life for myself.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Here's a note to the parents of addicted children: Choose your music carefully...There are millions of treacherous moments.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“Through Nic's drug addiction, I have learned that parents can bear almost anything....I shock myself with my ability to rationalize and tolerate things once unthinkable. The rationalizations escalate....It's only marijuana. He gets high only on weekends. At least he's not using hard drugs....” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“How innocent we are of our mistakes and how we responsible we are for them.” ― David Sheff
“When I transformed my random and raw words into sentences, sentences into paragraphs, and paragraphs into chapters, a semblance of order and sanity appeared where there had been only chaos and insanity.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“That's when it struck me that I can't take my life as long as I can still laugh.” ― David Sheff, Beautiful Boy: A Father's Journey Through His Son's Addiction
“He had black fingernails and drove a hearse. Everything about him cried out, 'Look at me, look at me,' and when you looked at him, he would snap, 'Who the fuck are you looking at?' If you subscribe to the idea that addiction is a disease, it is startling to see how many of these children- paranoid, anxious, bruised, tremulous, withered, in some cases psychotic - are seriously ill, slowly dying. We'd never allow such a scene if these kids had any other disease. They would be in a hospital, not on the streets.” ― David Sheff
