“Your new life is going to cost you your old one.It’s going to cost you your comfort zone and your senseof direction.It’s going to cost you relationships and friends.It’s going to cost you being liked and understood.It doesn’t matter.The people who are meant for you are going to meet youon the other side. You’re going to build a new comfortzone around the things that actually move you forward.Instead of being liked, you’re going to be loved. Instead ofbeing understood, you’re going to be seen.All you’re going to lose is what was built for a person youno longer are.”
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Brianna Wiest,
The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
“Love someone because their soul inspires you, not because you’re interested in the relief from loneliness and companionship they can provide. Anybody can do that. Not just anybody can show you to yourself.” ― Brianna Wiest
“The worst happened, and then it passed. You lost the person you thought you couldn’t live without and then you kept living. You lost your job then found another one. You began to realize that “safety” isn’t in certainty—but in faith that you can simply keep going.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“The things you love about others are the things you love about yourself. The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“Everything is hard in some way. It’s hard to be in the wrong relationship. It’s hard to be in the right one. It’s hard to be broke and miserable, it’s hard to achieve your dreams. It’s hard to be stuck in the middle, not really feeling anything at all. Everything is hard, but you choose your hard. You choose what’s worth it. You don’t choose whether or not you’ll suffer, but you do choose what you want to suffer for.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“Happy people know suffering more than anyone else, and that’s how they can see just how damn beautiful their lives are. It’s because they’ve seen the depths.” ― Brianna Wiest
“It is very hard to show up as the person you want to be when you are surrounded by an environment that makes you feel like a person you aren’t.” ― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
“People will come and go as they are scheduled to. Let them. Holding on does not affect them, only you.” ― Brianna Wiest
“The key to finding happiness in this life is realizing that the only way to overcome is to transcend; to find happiness in the simple pleasures, to master the art of just being.” ― Brianna Wiest
“Not everyone will like you. Not everyone will be kind to you. Not everyone will agree with you. That does not mean you have to be unkind in return.” ― Brianna Wiest
“Holding on will not make something come back. In my experience, it actually pushes it farther away. You cannot go back and undo what’s done, my friends. You can only move forward. And if your deepest compulsions and instincts tell you that you’re meant to be with that person or doing that thing, you should let go and move forth and see how life takes you there. Clearly, things aren’t going according to your desired plan already, so why not throw caution to the wind and see where you end up.” ― Brianna Wiest
“Nobody cries at a funeral because the world will be missing out on another pretty face. They cry because the world is missing another heart, another soul, another person. Don’t wait until it’s too late to focus on what will actually matter: creating something that lasts far beyond your body.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“Either way, mental strength is not just hoping that nothing ever goes wrong. It is believing that we have the capacity to handle it if it does.” ― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
“At the end of the day, all we really want are a few close people who know us (and love us) no matter what.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“You were taught that love is supposed to be patient and kind, and not something that challenges you and changes you and makes you who you are.” ― Brianna Wiest
“Make a list of all the imperfect people you’ve known in your life who have had love. Who have had romantic partners and best friends and jobs you could only ever dream of. Make a list of all the people who are conventionally unattractive and spiritually adrift and imperfect and all the things each one of them had despite being that way. Make it your own personal proof that you do not need to be perfect to be good enough.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“A friend once told me that the secret to finding love was not to actually look for it, but to heal the things that were preventing you from seeing and receiving it. I think the biggest one of all is, “What will having this love fix?”What will having this person next to me make me feel better about? What do I need them to tell me? What do I need them to prove? Who do I need them to look great in front of? What purpose do they serve for my ego?” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“Many people say that you have to love yourself first before you can love others, but really, if you learn to love others, you will learn to love yourself.” ― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
“The way you are self-sabotaging: Mindlessly scrolling through social media as a way to pass the time. What your subconscious mind might want you to know: This is one of the easiest ways to numb yourself, because it is so accessible and addictive. There is a world-altering difference between using social media in a healthy way versus as a coping mechanism. Mostly, it has to do with how you feel after you’re finished. If you don’t put the phone down feeling inspired or relaxed, you’re probably trying to avoid some kind of discomfort within yourself—the very discomfort that just might be telling you that you need to change.” ― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
“Love someone because their soul inspires you, not because you’re interested in the relief from loneliness and companionship they can provide. Anybody can do that. Not just anybody can show you to yourself.” ― Brianna Wiest
“The worst happened, and then it passed. You lost the person you thought you couldn’t live without and then you kept living. You lost your job then found another one. You began to realize that “safety” isn’t in certainty—but in faith that you can simply keep going.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“The things you love about others are the things you love about yourself. The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“Everything is hard in some way. It’s hard to be in the wrong relationship. It’s hard to be in the right one. It’s hard to be broke and miserable, it’s hard to achieve your dreams. It’s hard to be stuck in the middle, not really feeling anything at all. Everything is hard, but you choose your hard. You choose what’s worth it. You don’t choose whether or not you’ll suffer, but you do choose what you want to suffer for.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“Happy people know suffering more than anyone else, and that’s how they can see just how damn beautiful their lives are. It’s because they’ve seen the depths.” ― Brianna Wiest
“It is very hard to show up as the person you want to be when you are surrounded by an environment that makes you feel like a person you aren’t.” ― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
“People will come and go as they are scheduled to. Let them. Holding on does not affect them, only you.” ― Brianna Wiest
“The key to finding happiness in this life is realizing that the only way to overcome is to transcend; to find happiness in the simple pleasures, to master the art of just being.” ― Brianna Wiest
“Not everyone will like you. Not everyone will be kind to you. Not everyone will agree with you. That does not mean you have to be unkind in return.” ― Brianna Wiest
“Holding on will not make something come back. In my experience, it actually pushes it farther away. You cannot go back and undo what’s done, my friends. You can only move forward. And if your deepest compulsions and instincts tell you that you’re meant to be with that person or doing that thing, you should let go and move forth and see how life takes you there. Clearly, things aren’t going according to your desired plan already, so why not throw caution to the wind and see where you end up.” ― Brianna Wiest
“Nobody cries at a funeral because the world will be missing out on another pretty face. They cry because the world is missing another heart, another soul, another person. Don’t wait until it’s too late to focus on what will actually matter: creating something that lasts far beyond your body.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“Either way, mental strength is not just hoping that nothing ever goes wrong. It is believing that we have the capacity to handle it if it does.” ― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
“At the end of the day, all we really want are a few close people who know us (and love us) no matter what.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“You were taught that love is supposed to be patient and kind, and not something that challenges you and changes you and makes you who you are.” ― Brianna Wiest
“Make a list of all the imperfect people you’ve known in your life who have had love. Who have had romantic partners and best friends and jobs you could only ever dream of. Make a list of all the people who are conventionally unattractive and spiritually adrift and imperfect and all the things each one of them had despite being that way. Make it your own personal proof that you do not need to be perfect to be good enough.” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“A friend once told me that the secret to finding love was not to actually look for it, but to heal the things that were preventing you from seeing and receiving it. I think the biggest one of all is, “What will having this love fix?”What will having this person next to me make me feel better about? What do I need them to tell me? What do I need them to prove? Who do I need them to look great in front of? What purpose do they serve for my ego?” ― Brianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
“Many people say that you have to love yourself first before you can love others, but really, if you learn to love others, you will learn to love yourself.” ― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
“The way you are self-sabotaging: Mindlessly scrolling through social media as a way to pass the time. What your subconscious mind might want you to know: This is one of the easiest ways to numb yourself, because it is so accessible and addictive. There is a world-altering difference between using social media in a healthy way versus as a coping mechanism. Mostly, it has to do with how you feel after you’re finished. If you don’t put the phone down feeling inspired or relaxed, you’re probably trying to avoid some kind of discomfort within yourself—the very discomfort that just might be telling you that you need to change.” ― Brianna Wiest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery
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